Xeno AU! Do the vampire have a pack mentality amongst family or do they view relative as competition and couldn’t care less about family?

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-Vampires are generally terrible at pro-social behaviors. A long, long time ago, they had to rely on (most often familial) bonds to survive, but as their society became more civilized, the idea that attachment equaled weakness formed. Naturally speaking, vampires need both physical and emotional care, but their current society demonizes any kind of vulnerability. Forming genuine bonds of any kind is discouraged, as that would make them weak, and that’s not something that would be allowed to prosper.

Familial bonds, when done right, can definitely have something of a pack mentality to them. It’s instinct to stick close to the people that will protect them, so when a parent or sibling fills that role, they get attached. However, those kinds of healthy relationships are worryingly rare in recent times, and the majority of families treat each other more like what we see in the Sakamaki family. Vampire families indeed tend to see each other more as competition, but more so in a “this person would hurt me” kind of way, thanks to the utter lack of trust and connection between vampires, even family members.

Do think that xeno au vampires would when they feel like they are not getting enough attention act like cats do and mope around near you or do increasingly annoying things to get attention?

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-Yes, it’s quite likely. The bonding instinct, one of the few pro-social behaviors that vampires have, demands that they stay in the good graces of who it is that they’re attached to. In the same way that heartbreak from losing a friend or lover hurts humans, feeling rejected or separated from the bonded person is very nearly physically painful. It depends on the vampire, but nearly all of them would wind up doing what you described if they got desperate enough. In the case of our boys, especially the “increasingly annoying things” part, because they’re all children who don’t know how to ask for attention.

xeno au: laito realizing that he’s 100% attached to the person he’s bonded with ?? ik this isn’t rlly specific but i’d like to know his whole thought process etc ,,

(๑꒪▿꒪)* No problem!! It’s a very interesting concept to explore!

-Laito would not take that well at all. He’s spent so long avoiding any kind of real feelings, convincing himself that love is simply physical that actual feelings are terrifying. If he loves you, you can hurt him. If he’s attached to you, you can find the parts of him that could tear him apart. When he starts to realize that he’s fallen, he panics, avoiding you in a panicked attempt to prevent any more feelings from forming. He’s scared, genuinely scared of what you can do to him now that you have this kind of power over him.

For all he tries to seem above it all, Laito falls hard and fast when he starts to love someone. If you manage to break through the shell of carefully constructed defenses he’s spent a lifetime cultivating, you’ll get right to the weakest parts of him before he knows how to stop you. A bond makes Laito needy, softer, closer to his vulnerable childhood self, back before he understood how much love can hurt.

Laito will absolutely try to use sex to justify his new “love” for you. As long as he can convince himself that his feelings are merely physical, he’s safe. As long as he can keep things to just sex, he’ll be safe from the vulnerabilities that real love entails. He’ll do anything to keep up his facade, even after it becomes pathetically obvious that he’s fallen hard. When he finally breaks, it’s to an obsessive, needy, desperate kind of love that consumes every part of him. You’re not going to hurt him, you love him, and he can’t get enough.

How about Xeno Laito, Kanato, Ruki, Yuma, and Azusa for the “how they (not so) discreetly ask for affection from their s/o” post?

Admin Mawile: (⌒▽⌒)☆

Laito:

-The main way he shows affection is through sexual advances. He tends to see sex as love, and thus, when he wants affection from you, his first reaction is to offer more physical means of showing it. He doesn’t mind showing that he “loves” you or asking for your affection, it’s just admitting to genuine emotions that starts to become something that he can’t deal with.

Kanato:

-While he can be horribly attention-seeking, he doesn’t like admitting that he needs you in any way.. Thus, you’ll often get screamed at for things that you weren’t made aware he wanted, and have to deal with tears when he doesn’t get his way. Eventually, if you press the right buttons, he’ll get to the point where he can be a little sweeter, but he never ceases to be demanding.

Ruki:

-He’s typically the sort to be more withdrawn when it comes to affection, and will seek yours in subtle, roundabout ways that end in you feeling like you were the one who wanted it in the first place. Emotional vulnerability is hard for him, and while he can be sweet, it takes a while before he’s willing to open up to you enough to actively show that he wants attention.

Yuuma:

-If he wants your attention, he’s perfectly willing to sling you over his shoulder and carry you wherever he wants. He can be a bit rough, but once he starts actually wanting affection from you, you’ll see a much sweeter side to him. However, he’ll always be the sort to bluntly ask for affection when he wants it, and not bother with mind games or more subtle methods.

Azusa:

-He’s very, very open about wanting your attention… just, unfortunately, he tends to confuse affection with pain. Asking you to hurt him (or trying to do the same to you) is his main way of seeking attention, and he’s horribly, horribly pushy about it. Azusa doesn’t exactly take no for an answer, and he’ll find some way of getting what he wants from you in the end.

How would the boys deal with someone they’re attached having anger issues, that whenever they’re upset at them they try throwing hands or things. Like Subaru kinda

Admin Mawile: ┐(ﾟ～ﾟ)┌ The instinct here is basically “bonded person isn’t happy, they’re going to leave”, sooo, it’s a lil stressful for the boys to be stuck in that mentality whenever you get too upset. Also, being bonded to someone makes the vampire significantly “weaker”, because they can no longer hurt the person without having a big instinctive alarm bell going off.

Shuu: He really just wishes you’d relax a bit. Dealing with your temper is a pain, especially with the instinctive spike of worry whenever you get too angry.

Reiji: It very obviously stresses him out that you’re so violent, and while he tries to act like he’s just frustrated, he sometimes seems almost nervous about it.

Ayato: Despite trying to act like he doesn’t care, he starts acting a little uneasy whenever you get violent, almost like he’s afraid it’ll turn on him.

Kanato: He bursts into tears whenever you start getting angry, screaming at you to quit being so scary. The irony is completely lost on him.

Laito: He tries to play along and act like your temper only arouses him, but there’s something distinctly nervous lurking under the surface of his act.

Subaru: For all he does the same, your anger issues make him actively uncomfortable. It feels way too much like what he’s dealt with before.

Ruki: For a while, he’ll try to be strict and get you to stop acting like that, but the instinctive uneasiness makes it hard to face your temper for long.

Kou: Going off of what he thinks would work, he more or less tries to bribe you into calming down and not lashing out so much… to very little success.

Yuuma: He’s better at dealing with it than most, but swallowing the impulse that you’re going to get sick of him if he makes you upset isn’t easy.

Azusa: He would have thought that he would have enjoyed your vicious temper, but instead, all he feels is a deep sense of worry and dread.

Carla: Cold as always, he’ll try to just order you to stop… and get pretty angry himself when all that does is make him feel worse about the situation.

Shin: He acts tough about the situation for as long as he can, but eventually will snap and yell at you to quit bothering him so much.

question about the xeno au: does the person on the other end of the bond feel any change/does the bond have certain effects on them too? or is just the vampire? ^^

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-If the other person is a vampire, then yes, they’re probably going to be feeling much the same way. However, humans are built with the same kinds of instincts, and in the case of a vampire bonding with a human, it’s almost completely one-sided. The human is going to be able to pick up on the changes in the vampire, yes, but without the same instincts, there’s not much more they can do than to treat the bonded vampire well and try to make the (probably horribly stressful) situation as easy on them as possible. Considering that modern vampires see it as weak and shameful to get attached to anyone, it’s going to require some comfort and reassurance.

xeno au w shu, reiji, ayato, subaru and kou: headcanons on how they’d discreetly get (request?) affection from their s/o?

Admin Mawile:ヾ(･ω･*) Assuming that this is when they’re attached!!

Shuu:

-The closest he’ll get to showing you that he wants affection is to more or less use you as a human body pillow. He doesn’t ask, just forces you to stay close to him. The reality is that it’s getting harder and harder to sleep without being able to feel you nearby, and even though it would crush his ego to admit it, he’s getting to the point where he legitimately needs you close to him.

Reiji:

-A bond like that is very difficult for him to handle, considering how few chances he’s had toe express or ask for affection. When it happens with you, the only way he can handle reacting is to get pickier and pickier about your behavior, coming up with stupid excuses for him to remain by your side, all while not realizing quite how transparent he’s being.

Ayato:

-There’s really nothing subtle about his attempts to get affection. At best, he’ll grab you and pull you into a hug, burying his face in your shoulder, but he tends towards more clumsy,, violent means when he gets frustrated. A bond is hard on him, as he normally wants all your attention, and the attachment just makes that need a thousand times worse.

Subaru:

-Wanting attention from you ends in a flustered, frustrated Subaru who does not know what to do. He’s never really tried to get anyone’s attention before, and all these fluffy feelings are quickly getting to him. He’s likely to wind up cracking and shouting something at you about wanting to spend more time together… then getting angry when he realizes what he did.

Kou:

-With his mental system of give and take, the main way he tries to get you to do something for him is to first do something for you. Thus, when he wants attention, he starts by drowning you in attention. It’s not hard at all to figure out what he’s trying to do, especially when you realize that he’s starting to act more and more childish about it, increasingly needy.

Admin Mawile: A dumb, late night headcanon for Xeno Au cause I’m tired and have been thinking about this stuff all day: Subaru and Ayato both express an interest in sleeping in small, dark, enclosed spaces. They’re both pretty insecure on the inside, and Subaru especially (who also sticks to his coffin the most), has both high levels of stress/unhappiness, and low levels of self restraint.

What I’m getting at here is that perhaps distressed or insecure vampires gravitate towards those kinds of places??? As in, it’s some kind of instinct to hide somewhere small and dark when they feel bad, and the only reason more of them don’t do it is because it’s considered “weak” or something.

…I’m going to sleep now.

For the xeno AU, is it possible if the boys S/O touches their wings in the right places they could become aroused? Or feel something more than relaxation?

Admin Mawile: ヾ( ‘ – ‘*) I had a feeling this question was coming….

-Technically, the wings are the similar to any non-sexual yet sensitive area on a human body (like lips or other soft skin). They’re not inherently arousing or sexual in any way, but it’s possible for them to be incorporated into sexual contact. The main issue with that is that the wings are tied to a whole bunch of vampire instinct to do with trust and safety, and in a way, they can/do affect the vampire’s mental state.

It’s a not a matter of “right places”, though. They’re just plain delicate, and while touching them could be sexually pleasurable in the right situation, there’s nothing automatically sexual about them. Either way, though, the relaxing, calming, trusting effect would be the same.